So, I recently turned 30 and have had some time to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned over the years. I was inspired to write this post after reading lessons from another blogger who also recently turned 30. It seemed like not too long ago, I was just a young college student starting off life on my own. Although many of these lessons may not be financial or career in nature, I feel that they ultimately will help people in those areas. Here are my lessons in no particular order. These are the same lessons I wish I could teach my 20-year-old self.
Are you in the market for a new home, a new car, or a new job? Would you like to get the best value for your money or the best salary for your experience? Well, I recently guest posted on a very popular personal finance and travel blog called Making Sense of Cents. In my post, I outlined some of my top negotiating tips that I have learned from negotiating products and services with large vendors in my career. I actually used those tips to negotiate the successful and quick purchase of my condo. Perhaps you can use some of the advice and general principles I have provided when negotiating your next big purchase. You can find the article here.
Recently, I watched a Youtube video from an entrepreneur named Gary Vaynerchuk. I have been a fan of his for a while and have been truly inspired by his thinking, his drive, and his accomplishments. Born in the Soviet Union, he and his family moved to the US when he was a young boy. He grew his father’s liquor store business from $3 million in annual sales to $50 million by taking the business online and creating Youtube content around wine to aggressively grow sales. Later, he started his own company, Vaynermedia, a social media brand consulting agency. He produces a lot of great Youtube content, speaks at various events, and actively engages people with social media.
The first thing you need to do is to define what success means to you. This step is the most important. Success to your parents, teachers, and other people may be totally different than success to you. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and think deeply about the things that truly matter to you. Spend a few days thinking about this if necessary, since it will determine your path from this day on. Is it traveling to new places, experiencing new cultures, eating amazing food, cultivating genuine relationships, performing meaningful work, competing in your favorite sport, creating beautiful artwork or building a business from scratch?
We grow up in a world where people tell us we should be doing this, should be doing that, or we should not be doing something. Our parents, our families, our teachers, and other people that we are close to want us to live wonderful, productive lives. Many parents want their children to be doctors, lawyers, engineers, or any other high-status, well-paying profession so that they can be financially secure and well-respected. Their thinking is that these professions will be a guaranteed path to job security and wealth. Even those these professions are highly regarded, that doesn’t mean they are the right path for YOU.
When you want something too badly and you put in a lot of work into it, it’s very easy to get frustrated if you haven’t accomplished exactly what you want. Whether it be at work, in your own business, or in your dating life, a disconnect between your current achievements and your ultimate goal can create tremendous frustration, negativity, and hopelessness.
Today will be a fun post. I’m sure everyone has witnessed some strange events at work. Previously, I had written about things that I’ve personally witnessed that you should never do at work. I was recently on a discussion forum called City-Data and stumbled upon a discussion about strange complaints at work. I thought I would share some of the weirdest complaints that I found.
"Acting is behaving truthfully under imaginary circumstances."
Not too long after I moved to San Francisco from Los Angeles to leave a job I didn’t like, I discovered a Groupon deal for acting classes. It was a beginner’s class for people who have never acted before. I never did any drama or theater in school. I was always a more logical and analytical person, and never had any interest in the performing arts. Little did I know, this coupon would drastically change me as a person, and ultimately the course of my life.
“In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.”
I’ve seen many people whose attitudes are to grind, grind, then grind more. They may have a relentless work ethic and an extreme drive to get things done. It’s almost as if they need to feel like they’ve exhausted themselves in order to feel like they’ve accomplished something. They need to burn the midnight oil all the time. However, I am here to tell you that that is probably not the best way to get things done. You’ll probably end up with poor quality work if you constantly exhaust yourself. In fact, there is a much easier and efficient way to finish your work.
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